Thursday, July 26, 2012

My Way of Thinking: Drama

In the last couple of months I have been told that I am dramatic.  The picture I chose for this post is dramatic. 35 years as an actor/singer were dramatic.  Finding good homes for dogs is dramatic.Maintaining relationships is dramatic.  So I guess I am dramatic.  After all, when enough people tell you something, perhaps it is wise to listen and do a little soul searching.

The question here is, am I too dramatic?  Does my passion for everything I do put people off?  Does my desire to share my life seem frightening to those who tend to be more reserved and private?  By loving with gusto, do I frighten people?  Maybe so.

We all are who we are because we choose who we want to be.  I have chosen to live my life LARGE!  It was my choice to share my life in a BIG way.  No one forced me to be honest.  No one forced me to speak my mind, share my passion, or share the love that comes to me naturally.  If that is drama, so be it.  I confront wrongs with passion.  Hatred, bigotry, prejudice, injustice (as I perceive such things) have to be addressed by me.  Even if I am wrong, it would be more wrong to stay silent when I feel strongly about something.  And, when I find out that I am wrong, it would be morally wrong for me to ignore it.  When I apologize it is heartfelt.  That is always dramatic.

I suppose that what I am trying to say is simply that we can't please everyone.  We have to live our lives to the best of our abilities.  Anything less than that is dishonest.  I find that life is very dramatic.  Running from the implicit drama that life provides would be anathema to me.  Facing it calmly with a thoughtful mind is my goal.  Does anyone achieve an absolutely level life without any drama?  Please introduce yourself.

I guess my message here is to pay attention to what others say.  Look inside.  Even agree with them if they are right.  Then decide if you really, truly like yourself.  If you do feel good about who you are, always realizing that there is room for improvement, move on.  Be willing to let go of those who don't understand you.  Love those who don't (maybe can't) comprehend your way of thinking.  As always, this blog is only MY way of thinking.

                                         Peace and Love,




  1. Drama for the sake of drama puts people off, but passion--which you have so much of!--creates energy and joy. Yes, you express yourself with great gusto. What would the world be if everybody were timid and afraid? I have no doubt some people don't want to be around big energy, but that only means they lose out. The great sights of the world are highly dramatic (think the Grand Canyon or the Colosseum in Rome). Amazing music is dramatic.

    I am not a dramatic person and I admire and sometimes envy people who are not afraid to put a bit self out there!

    Judy Stone-Goldman
    The Reflective Writer

  2. Judy, as always your comment is so insightful. This post was in answer to a few people who told me that I created too much drama for them. I took a hard look and realized that I don't create the drama but I don't run away from dramatic situations. I confront whatever comes my way with as much honesty as possible. I try to be diplomatic but sometimes my passionate nature gets the better of me. I am a work in progress. I will NEVER be one to shy away from life's inherent dramas.

    Thank you,


  3. Bravo to embracing the "drama" in our everyday living! To facing it with passion! To not shying away from expressing it!
    Aren't we all a work in progress? Carry on with your strong and heartfelt passion, what other think is really of no concern! ♥♥♥
    (Saw when you posted this and obviously misplaced the mental note to come back and read it :-/ But I'm glad I finally did!)

    1. So happy you read this, Lisa. I also just posted ""A Year of Writing." what a great adventure!