A dear friend recently asked me to write about finding the positive in everything. I replied that I thought that was pretty much what I have been writing about all this time. But she said that I need to spell it out step by step. Okay, I am up for a challenge.
First and foremost, having a positive attitude begins with you. You can't look at the world around you as positive if you aren't going to be positive yourself. So step one is to make a personal choice to create your own positive contribution to the process. Everyone has the power to make this kind of choice. I believe that we choose how we want to be perceived by those around us. We can blame others all we want for the way we are, but in the end, it really is our own choice that defines us.
Step number 2 is to begin applying our positive outlook to everything that presents itself to our personal space. I know, that seems hard but it really is quite simple. Not every situation can be looked at as positive. The trick is to find a positive action that we can take in any given situation. A mother and her small children are killed by a drunk driver. Nothing positive there. But we can take a positive action. We can offer our love and support to the family. We can send a card. We can cook dinner for those left behind. Love is always positive. There is no negative that can stand up to the power of love.
Step number 3 is putting this principle into practise. This takes a little work and concentration. When something that seems negative enters our personal world, or space if you prefer, we have to empower ourselves by finding the positive within ourselves. We then look for ways to trust our inner power to stand up to whatever seems negative and bring something optimistic to the person or situation. We begin to look for the good within ourselves instead of expecting it to come from something or someone externally. Remember that there IS no negative in love, empathy, or compassion. These things come from within, from our soul. Apply these gifts and the rest will take care of itself.
If this seems simplistic, that's because it IS simple. It all comes back to you. It comes down to the choices you make. We all have the power to choose what kind of person we want to be. We can't control everything around us. We CAN control our own hearts and mind. All we have to do is recognize our responsibility to find and share the best part of ourselves. We really can choose to be happy. There can be no negative in a happy attitude towards life. Look for all those positive yes words. Stop saying no when a challenge presents itself. Think about giving and forget about getting. You may be pleasantly surprised by how much easier life can be.
Norman Vincent Peale wrote "The Power of Positive Thinking" a long time ago. It is still relevant today. Also "Begin With Yes" by Paul Boynton (a Facebook friend) is a helpful and easy read on this subject. Remember that everything begins with you. That's where it ends as well.
Peace and Love,