Thursday, October 13, 2011

My way of thinking/anniversaries

Jon and I celebrated our 19th anniversary yesterday. So amazing to think about all the years, all the experiences, and all the adventures we have had together. We have shared every minute of it together. Good times. Not so good times. But always facing whatever happened together. How wonderful is that? When you have the confidence that comes with that kind of support there's no limit to what you can do.

If it sounds like I am bragging about the success of our relationship, it's because I am. I think part of the reason for our success is because we were pretty mature when we met. I was 38. Jon was 36. We had both been through failed relationships in our pasts and neither one of us was going to go that route again. We became best friends first with a good knowledge of who we were and what we wanted from each other.

I look back at all that now and it makes me smile. As cautious as we thought we were, there was still a long way to go. We both knew that relationships require work but I'm not sure that we really knew how much. Love is a big part of what drives you to do the work but commitment, patience, understanding, and the willingness to compromise are also such a big part of the equation.

I think our pups help us to remember all those necessary qualities. They are loyal, patient(unless they really,really have to go), always willing to give you love and to give you that happy wag of the tail whenever they get your attention. Jon and I feel the same way right down to wagging our imaginary tails. Hey, we could have been in "Avatar".

Thanks to everyone who sent us their good wishes. Our friends mean so much to us and they keep us honest. We are the luckiest family in the world. Jon, Roxy, Charlie and especially me.

                                       Peace and Love,




  1. Congratulations to both of you, Bill. 19 years is quite a long time to be with someone and you've definitely figured out what keeps people together (commitment, patience and compromise!). Oh yeah, and a heck of a lot of love. :-) I'm happy you are happy. You have quite the lovely family.

    caregiving. family. advocacy.

  2. Thank you Trish. My blog is always about love. Sometimes how to give it. Sometimes how to get it. This time I was writing about how to sustain it. I KNOW you know what I'm talking about. I still am thinking about your wonderful book.

  3. What a wonderful post. What you two have is so very precious. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and photos....I love them-best pictures of you both yet!

  4. Hi Bill,

    congratulations! 19 years is a long time, I never made it (so far) that long (but I am too young to have 19 years in relationship, hahaha) but I am confident -happily married for 3 years, together for 6 years now.
    It's not always happy sunshine, I agree! Ups and downs, happy and sad times. I think the most important thing is to grow together and always be yourself. Never try to change for someone else unless it's for your own good and that's what you really want deep inside and never try to change the other person!

    Congratulations again, glad to see you happy together,

    Franziska San Pedro
    The Abstract Impressionist Artress

  5. Thanks to you all for your lovely comments and support. Franziska, it's not so much about how long a couple has been together. It's about the quality of that time. If you put in the work, time takes care of itself. I know you will be successful in your relationship because you are successful in all that you do.

    Sandy, the next time you visit I must get you to take pictures of all four of us together. Then we need someone else to take pics of the five of us. And so on and so on. LOL!

  6. I'm so happy for you, Bill & Jon! Staying in a relationship for 19 years is a milestone in my opinion! I have many friends who've been in my life 20, 30 even 40 years, but never had a "relationship" last nearly as long. Kudos to both of you --- your pups have taught you well! lol! :)

    Sending hugs & wags -

    Heidi & Atticus
    "commentary to give you paws..."