Yesterday I had a chance to go through all the comments and questions that I have received about my blog. I am grateful for each and every one of them. I thought that I would try to further discuss the most frequently discussed topic. That would be the concept of unconditional love.
Many of my readers have expressed disappointment that they have never experienced unconditional love in their lifetime. As I have said before, the only true unconditional love we experience as adults is going to come from a baby or a dog. Even cats seem to put conditions on their love. Babies have not yet been conditioned to expect a return on their love. Once we learn that we can have expectations, the party is over. We learn to expect that whatever we give, should give us some kind of return. That is what messes us up.
The best advice I can give for an experience of love that comes close to being unconditional is to try to practice giving it yourself. But the moment you expect anything in return, and I mean anything, you have already blown it. It is very hard, maybe even impossible to keep our hopes, desires, and fantasies out of the way. Wouldn't it be nice if life could imitate a Disney animated film? But that is highly unrealistic and a real set up for disappointment.
Remember that you have freedom of choice. You can choose to do your best to love without asking for anything in return. Forgive yourself if you can't quite do it successfully. Continue to try and in time you will find that you are getting closer to your goal. Keep in mind that the goal is only for yourself. You can't ask someone to share that goal. Once you ask that you have missed the point.
I did hear from a number of readers that they have trouble leaving comments directly to this blog. I have tried to find out what the problem is but I can't seem to get a reasonable answer. Something about cookies and caches. Greek to me. You can comment to me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org or find me on facebook.com/wahjr56. I truly love hearing from you all. I especially love that many of you are recommending my blog to friends and family. That is such a blessing to me.
Peace and Love,